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Adoption Update…

It is official; the letter was dropped in the mail a few days ago to inform our agency we will be closing our adoption file with them once again.  Again there are a number of reasons why, but the fact of the matter is international adoption is an incredibly expensive endeavor and because of unforeseen circumstances we are not able to afford it at this time.

Randy asked if I wanted to do the classes for the US foster-to-adopt program.  I’ll do the classes if he wants to, but right now I feel completely and utterly defeated.  The last thing I feel like doing right now is starting another process.  I want to just live life a little enjoy each other’s company which for the passed 3 years has revolved around the discussion of adopting, children, and preparation for a child in our home. 

From here on out I hope to recollect my thoughts and spend some time enjoying the things I do have (a husband, a farm, pets, and a home that could use a little tlc).  I would also like to complete some of the things we have been putting off and prepare a schedule for the year.  A schedule an impending adoption did not allow for.  Lastly, I just want to regain the energy it took to be in the process of an adoption…to feel strong and healthy again physically and mentally.

I know this is a let down to not only us, but to our friends and family who have supported us along the way.  Know we are very sorry this didn’t work out also.  A very small handful of friends are the only ones who know about our adoption process coming to an end and fortunately we didn’t tell my parents so nothing will have to be done there which is a relief. 

We will undoubtedly be asked about our adoption and have to answer questions about why it didn’t work out.  This is all part of it, and we are ready to face the music.  It’s such a hard process sometimes and such a financial burden for us middle-class folks.  I hate it for the children.  They are the ones who suffer the most through it all.


Still no home study….

Okay, I’m a little disappointed we haven’t received our home study yet.  Hopefully it makes it here this week so we can get it sent off to immigration.  We did get our KBI background checks back and all is well (again) there.


Still no home study…

We were in hopes our home study would arrive last week.  However, last week came and went and still no home study.  We still aren’t getting impatient.  I’ll admit I gave Randy my huffy, “our home study didn’t come again today” Friday and Saturday evening.  If it isn’t setting in our mailbox when I get home today I will probably do the same tonight.  He’s expecting it from me now.  I don’t want to let the him down.

We have been asked numerous times about adopting a Haitian baby.  We would definitely consider adopting from Haiti if a reasonable process is implemented, but for now Ethiopia is where our first adoption will take place.  Finances are always a concern where international adoption is concerned so for now we are focusing on our current adoption and anxiously awaiting our home study, so we can anxiously await our referral, so we can anxiously await our travel date.  We are still trying to finish up the requirements for a U.S. adoption as well so we will see what the future holds for our family.

It seems as of right now our 21 chickens, 70 sheep, 11 cats, 3 dogs, 1 llama, and at least 5 stray cats and kittens are keeping our days (and nights) full.  Today is the first official day our sheep could start lambing.  We are praying for a uneventful lambing season where everyone is healthy and safe.  We are always anxious for it to get underway once the due date has arrived.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!


Still Waiting on Medical…

Randy and I took off work early Thursday afternoon, rushed home (we each have an hour commute) to do chores, to hop in a car together and drive another half hour to pick up our medical letters from our doctor’s office to discover…….they did them wrong.

I emailed the letters again today to our doctor’s office so they could redo them and mail them to us asap.  They originally told me they didn’t have email capabilities, so I tried faxing them repeatedly which never went through.  Then I had to rely on the good ol’ US Postal Service.  The post office may be slower than email or faxing, but at least it is consistent.  They received the mailed forms and proceeded to do them incorrectly.  This time around (and considering it’s taken them 3 weeks to sign two pieces of paper) I was given an email address for speedy processing.

Randy and I know this is all part of God’s plan for us and our soon-to-be family.  Maybe our baby isn’t born yet so our adoption will have to be slowed down some?  Like Randy said, “it is teaching us patience.”  It will all come through in perfect time.  In the meantime there are lots of things to plan, purchase, and worry about, and we are doing them all while we wait.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!


One More Step Completed…

He did it….He finished our medical updates!! After a couple of phone calls the letters were found. They were once thought to be incomplete, but the nurse found them tucked away in our file instead of in the outbox. Yea!

Randy and I are leaving work early to drive over to the doctor’s office to pick them up. We are hoping we can convince the receptionist to fax them directly to our social worker for us. Otherwise, we will have to find a place still open who will fax it for us.

We hope to meet up with friends for dinner after we get our paper work in order. We don’t generally eat out much, but there is an inexpensive burger joint we like to go to on occasion. It’s locally owned and budget friendly. What could be better? It will be our little celebration.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!


Still Waiting…

Doctor’s offices are known for their delays, long wait times, and impediments when trying to get things accomplished.  Well, adoption paper work is no different.  We are still being held up by our doctor’s office.  The RN said she would set a deadline for him to have the letters done by Friday (15th).  We were in hopes they would already be done last Friday (8th), but we are at his mercy and are just grateful he is will to do the letters for us.

I will fax our social worker and mail our agency our medical letters as soon as we get them so they can update our home study.


Medical Updates…

Okay, I finally got through with someone at our doctor’s office to confirm out medical forms we need updated arrived.  I faxed them twice last week and finally gave in and mailed them Monday.  I don’t think the faxes ever went through, but they did receive what I mailed.  Yea! 

The doctor is out of the office today, but the nurse said she would try to get him to do them tomorrow and leave a note to call us as soon as they are ready.  If they finish them tomorrow I will drive over there, pick them up, and mail a copy to Holt that same day.  It’s a 30 minute drive one way, but it doesn’t matter.  We need these letters to continue the process.  We are at a standstill until we receive these, so I will risk life and limb to get them.  If he doesn’t get them done tomorrow we will have to have them mailed to us and it will be next week before we can get them sent to Holt.  Let’s pray he has a slow day at his doctor’s office, on a Friday, in the dead of winter, and has time to type them up for us… could happen.

It’s a chain reaction once we receive our medical:

Medical update-Home study update-I600A update-Dossier completion

Each one has to be completed before we can proceed with the next.  We are in hurry-up-and-wait mode!  That’s adoption world.  We are getting used to it and just doing what needs to be done and knowing it will all happen in God’s good time.

Adopting one child won't change the world; but for that child, the world will change.

I am the wife to my wonderful husband and joint care giver to the many animals we have acquired on our small farm here on the prairie. This is a bit about our life on our farm. We are striving for simplicity and self-sufficiency, determined to become debt-free, trying to live in tune with the natural cycles of this earth, and challenging ourselves to transition to a diet based on traditional foods. It isn't always easy, and we don't always succeed, but it is a fun learning process. Join us as we stumble through learning how to provide for ourselves, get off the treadmill, and work toward a simpler way of life.

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